How To Lose a Friend

Looking myself in the mirror hasn’t been easy lately. I cheated with my close friend’s boyfriend. The cheating lasted for about three months and now she knows about everything. She broke up with the boyfriend. He and I are completely over as well. I want my friend back, but she wants nothing to do with me. How can I get her to accept my apology?

Stefan Says...

What’s done is done. It looks like you’ve lost a friend for good. An apology doesn’t work for someone who never wants to hear from you again. In fact, instead of helping her, it could just be more traumatizing. Concentrate on forgiving yourself and move on.

My Momma Says...

In terms of getting your friend back, forgetaboutit!!!!! Your path forward begins with the recognition that you conducted yourself in a hurtful manner. Are you sorry? Yes. Now deal with it. Start by examining how you rationalized this behavior in the first place. Then, visualize how you will avoid a similar situation in the future. And, if you resolve to stick with your plan, it will be an opportunity.